Lier, Lier

" Lier, lier pants on fire." this is an old children's rhyme from long ago, who would have thought that we would have to re-think these words, is it child's play or not. To tell the truth is to be free to speak with and hear with a open mind. One must see the world clearly and understand the dynamic's of there actions and of others around them. But this is clearly not the case, we lie every day, every minute, all the time. Big lies, little lies, red lies, blue lies, here we go again Dr. Seuss-ing our selves once more. It is time to open our eyes to the fact that lies have become a part of our every day life. Lies come in many different forms, shapes and sizes, let me share with you some of the different ways we choose lying.

In the book Companion Though the Darkness by Stephanie Ericsson she creates notes from that came The Way We Lie , in this she has broken lies down into ten different way that we lie.
a) The White Lie, assumes that the truth will cause more damage than a simple, harmless untruth.
b) Facades this is that bullshit costume we put on to appear as someone else.
c) Ignoring the plain facts may not in and of itself be a form of lying, but we must consider the context of the situation.
d) Deflecting, appear up front about an issue, let others assume and reveal nothing always keeping something hidden.
e) Omission involves telling most of the truth minus one or two key facts, whose absence changes the story completely.
f) Stereotypes and Cliche's serve a purpose as a form of shorthand, opinion does not exist, the status quo becomes, and all originality is discouraged.
g) Group think, defines this sort of lie as a psychological phenomenon within decision making groups in which loyalty to the group has become more important then any other value.
h) Out-and -Out lie we know this as the bald-face lie
i) Dismissal, dismissing feelings, perceptions, or raw facts of a situation.
j) Delusion the tendency to see excuses as facts.
This is one hell of a list, and it could go on but this is more then a mouth full. What is the deeper meaning behind the lie. In fact it is the truth. Sounds funny but the fact is that the deep seeded meaning behind a lie is the need to bare the truth, we must unfold the lie, re-set the lie to find the truth barely beneath a pail of lies. You would think that we would just tell the truth, seems easier but in fact not. Our feeling and emotions get in the way of this thinking creating the lie.

The lie was born from fear, sadness, shame and low self worth, everyone carries this at one time or another. It is in how we think. George Lakoff said," don't think of an elephant! Know your values and frame your words." This means if we took the time to see the true value of our words and in the way we used them the lie would soon melt away, in theory. ( not done )