Today we view the world in rose-colored glasses. Looking for that perfected body, judging others and ourselves along the way. Is this okay to do, are we setting ourselves up for failure? Or has our society brainwashed us into thinking that this is okay? Who is to say what is masculine and what is feminine, where do we draw the line? These are but just a few of the questions I find myself asking all the time.

Masculine and Feminine ideas come from many different places, such as television, movies, radio, and also from culture to culture. People’s ideas of what they see as or judge upon are as different as the wind. Let me start with culture, some culture’s find that a large woman is beautiful, it means that she is healthy and can carry for her family, but in other cultures thin and tall with blue eyes and long following hair create the perfect woman. These cultures differ greatly but they both fell that’s what makes up feminine. As for men it maybe about how many children he can father or what a mighty hunter he is, these make up the masculine features for other cultures.
And here in the USA we look for brave, strong, and mighty warrior as our masculine outline, and for our woman we tend to look for body size of the month, like slim, tall and curves with ivory skin. I’m not judging just saying, look at our top models over the years, there is your proof.
Crazy, but we judge people based on their masculine and feminine qualities such as size, shape, job, color and the way one carry’s oneself. Which brings me back to where did the ideas come from, as I stated before media, magazines, sports and our culture through out time and history. These things create, shape and impress upon us what is to be masculine and feminine. We look at size not to big, not to small, not to short, not to tall, funny it sounds like a classic children’s story from Dr. Seuss, but the fact is that’s the truth in all its full colored pages.

Our views are shaped for us by the one’s who carry the golden rod think about it? Media plays a great part in our window of life, movie, videos, television, radio and magazines. These forms show us what we think we what to see, creating an idea of what we should see, but taking away are free will as we know it. I’m not saying that we are all robots following some crazy made up god but on some level we do follow like sheep the way of the world until someone or something comes along an alters it.


Masculine and feminine are just a part of us, but a big part of what the world sees, making it look, feel, and seem as if it was everything. The idea starts us out very young with ken and Barbie, and then it grows with us like Disney to MTV, before you know it, its implanted into the core of whom we are without us even knowing. Sad, but true, funny still crazy, weird but real, this is our masculine and our feminine wrap nice and neat just for us. We try to fight it but once again he who has the gold makes the rules, so it true money does talk. I guess I’m saying that we are all sheep at one time or another. I to fall into the trap of what the world feels about masculine and feminine even as I fight to teach my own children not to judge but to feel, hear and see with their hearts that it takes all shapes and sizes to create a wonderful world today. Thank you for letting me be me today, tomorrow and forever.